I was two years old when my mother threw me off her lap and called me "naughty."

I didn't know I'd carry that label for the next forty years—showing up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and a permanent feeling that I was one mistake away from being thrown away.

Sound familiar?

If you're a man who's been permanently labeled "not enough," "too much," "weak," "disgusting," "failure" you know the cost:

• You either disappear to keep the peace... or you dominate to keep control.
• You apologize for existing, or you scorch the earth.
• You go numb with porn, work, or booze... or you explode and clean up the mess later.

Either way, you're exhausted. And the old script keeps winning.

RECLAIM gives you what you never got: a trainable system to break the shame cycle.

Not therapy jargon. Not "feel your feelings and hope for the best." Seven concrete skills you can use in real time:

R — Recognize your patterns before they run you

E — Embody safety so your body stops screaming "danger"

C — Care for your parts instead of attacking yourself

L — Loosen the "I am bad" beliefs that keep you small

A — Anchor in authenticity: ask clearly, set boundaries, repair fast

I — Integrate the story so your body learns, "That moment ended"

M — Move as the new man in tiny, repeatable ways

Each chapter gives you:

• A quick tool you can use immediately
• Word-for-word scripts for hard conversations
• Body-regulation moves that work in your car, at your desk, or mid-argument

Here's what changes:

✓ You catch shame at a 4 instead of exploding at a 9

 ✓ You stay in hard conversations without disappearing or detonating

 ✓ You repair conflicts the same day instead of ghosting for a week

 ✓ You set boundaries that don't torch relationships

 ✓ You ask for what you need without apologizing for existing

You don't become a different man. You become more fully the man you were before shame taught you to contort.

If someone once called you "naughty," "pathetic," "too sensitive," "not a real man"... and that label is still running your life?

This book is your way out.

Ninety days. Seven skills. Real change.

RECLAIM: A Men's Guide to Healing Shame

Available now in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.

Heal the label. Keep the fire. Move as the new.