RECLAIM

You were never just the “naughty kid.”

 But if shame got welded to your identity early, “selfish,” “too much,” “not enough” you may still be living like that boy is running your life. Time to reclaim.

RECLAIM is a men’s 90-day field guide for healing shame at its roots so you can show up as the man you are: present, grounded, powerful and free to choose your response instead of reacting on autopilot.

If you’re allergic to woo, wary of therapy-speak, and tired of being told to “just love yourself,” this book is for you.

Inside, you’ll learn to:

·        Spot the shame cycles that hijack your reactions in seconds

·        Calm your nervous system with simple “in-the-moment” body drills

·        Work with your inner “protector,” “rebel,” and “little boy” instead of fighting them

·        Loosen rigid beliefs like I’m bad, I am not enough, I always screw it up, I’m too much

·        Ask for what you need without drama, manipulation, or disappearing

·        Set clean boundaries and repair after conflict without groveling or stonewalling

·        Build a stack of small, repeatable wins that become identity evidence: I’m not that boy anymore.

The RECLAIM™ method gives you a clear, seven-step map:

·       Recognize the shame cycles

·       Embody safety

·       Care for your personas

·       Loosen rigid beliefs

·       Attach securely

·       Integrate the story

·       Move as the deeper you

Each step includes short explanations, real-life examples, “Try This Now” drills, and plain-language scripts you can use with partners, kids, bosses, and friends. You can work through it solo or alongside therapy, men’s groups, or spiritual direction.

You don’t have to stay frozen in who you were told you were.

 Ninety days from now, you can feel and act like a man who has finally taken his life back.

RECLAIM your core self.